The Essence of Conscious Parenting

Nurture and Connect to Your Inner Child

heal your wounds and, in turn, project outwardly to your children wholeness and abundance

When we desire the thought of having children and then The Universe fulfills our wishes, most of us don’t even realize the full commitment it takes in raising them after they are brought into this world. We talk about our desires so freely, scripting the play-by-play on how it will look and be once we have them. We have already planned out all of their years and framed them accordingly to meet our standards. They will do this and be that, they will do as I say (not as I do), they will know who’s boss and know their place, they will listen when I speak, they will not talk back, they will not be like the next door neighbor’s child, they will be better, and the list goes on.

Anyone with a child (whether a parent, care-taker, guardian) knows these egoic patterned thoughts and beliefs all too well if we are willing to admit it, yet most of us don’t — for fear of shame, guilt, lack of acceptance, judgment and caring what other people think.

What I absolutely love, admire, and respect about the brilliant work of Dr. Shefali author of The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family, is her matter-of-fact yet authentic, truthful, and insightful approach to how parents have been doing it all along from the conventional parental hierarchy mindset to a more conscious-minded parental approach — and how, with just a shift in consciousness and more inner connectivity to ourselves, we have the power and the ability to recognize and to transform these patterned beliefs into empowering and life-changing ones, both for ourselves and ultimately for the benefit of our children.

So when our children are brought to us, we need to raise our level of consciousness to new heights to meet them where they are and what they have come here to teach us. We must release the grip on our ego and embrace our child’s essence, all while tapping into our own. It’s no longer about the wish but now about truly facing the raw reality and messages that our children have come to deliver.

Through our full-on presence and daily connection — emotionally, physically and spiritually – our children’s presence awakens us to the core of our being (if we so let them) to the point that we experience our own re-birthing, attending to the inner child within that was left behind for so many years. Our inner child that needed the attention, validation, acceptance, love, connection — yet through life’s peaks and valleys – was no longer nurtured, and instead covered its head and heart so it didn’t have to bare the pain any longer. That pain can remain sedentary for years and manifest through one’s actions, behaviors, emotions, thoughts until one day it cries for help.

It is through the practice of conscious parenting that we are given a gift to nurture and connect to our inner child so we heal those wounds and, in turn, what we ultimately project outwardly to our children is that of wholeness and abundance — allowing them to lead an authentic life that is true to their own essence and being.

So with each day, each new sunrise, and through the daily awareness of your own self, may we come to see your children not as an extension of ourselves but as their own spiritual being.